What’s the problem with our generation?

We fear commitment. Yet we want someone to commit to us. ( Click here for the male’s perspective)

Who is he to you? Who is she to you? Questions that occur too often and seem to have to have a stigmatised response of “that’s my girlfriend“, or “that’s my boyfriend” and if that’s not what you are, you will be labelled that way by your peers; therefore, you will begin to act the way a couple would without even realising it. 

“That’s not my man… but he can’t talk to other girls because he’s technically mine” this feeling does not need to be determined by a title. 

Let me explain the misleading nature of titles in relationships.


Titles come with expectations, they come with regulations and rules and therefore change commitment from being accessory to a necessity.

A title makes that person known to be yours and only yours, and that is how it is.

 However a title does not stop partners from being unfaithful, it does not make a bond stronger, and it definitely does not stop the outside world from intervening.

Let me be straight and say this. A title is not stronger than a bond, and loving someone does not need to be labelled.

Much of our generation seems to think that through a title feelings and affection will be increased, and having someone to take you out and claim you as your own is somehow a fulfilment or achievement.

It is not I assure you.

As much as I love to see young love and relationships, the nature of a title can create unnecessary arguments and unwarranted stress for both people.


“A girlfriend is expected to have her partner’s social media password.”

“A good boyfriend is supposed to cut off any female associates that his girlfriend does not like.”

“A  good girlfriend cannot post certain pictures on social media if she has a man.”

These are just some of the most popular expectations that young people expect from people in a relationship.

In some situations a title comes with a loss of youth, and my best advice to those is that being single is better than being in a toxic situation, especially if it’s not a marriage.

Don’t think that securing someone will make that person centre their life around you.

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